You don't have to be offended.
Today I want to talk about something that has bothered me a lot recently, especially because I see it happening all around me IRL. People being offended by words. I don’t know if what I am about to explain is common sense or not, but I just want to talk about it.
People seem to have this feeling that they have to be offended when someone insults them, don’t get me wrong here, I used to do it a lot in the past too, and I still do it at times. The thing is, words in of itself aren’t insulting. It is just how you interpret them that you find them insulting.
Let me try to give you an example, let’s say person XY insults you, XY is the sender, you are the receiver, if you turn off your receiver component tho, the insult just flies into space and you don’t get any bad feelings off of it.
Another thing, like my old chemistry teacher used to say “Nobody is responsible for how you feel, except yourself”, you should not make others responsible for how you feel, you should hold them accountable for what they intended to make you feel, not what you actually felt. What I mean by that is, language is just a layer to convey what we really feel, and if you don’t get what they actually intended to say, then it’s not a reason for you to be offended, but rather a reason to try and understand what they actually meant. I think it is very healthy to assume that people mean well, most people out there don’t want to hurt you, or offend you. They want communicate, exchange knowledge, talk and have fun. If we all spend too much time thinking and worrying about what was said instead of what was meant, then we waste our time just looking at the symptoms of a cause.
I don’t know if this helped anybody, or if this just seemed like a rant, but either way, if you made it till the end, thx, and have a nice day :)